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10 pros and cons of hiring a Japanese Au pair

So you like Japanese food, culture, anime, people and you're considering hiring a Japanese au pair?

Awesome choice!

But before you dive in, let's take a closer look at what you're signing up for.

After a decade of matching Australian families with Japanese au pairs, I've seen plenty of happy outcomes.

Families have enjoyed great help, made new friends, and learned about Japanese culture.

But let's be real—despite the many positives, there can be challenges for both the family and the au pair.

With ten years of experience in this field, I understand both sides well.

Before diving in, it's wise to think carefully about whether hosting a Japanese au pair is right for you.

Luckily, I can help with that. I'll break down the pros and cons, making it easier for you to decide.

A Quick Overview and Comparison




The Language Barrier

Hard worker

High-context culture

Helpful attitude

Shy and private

Learn a new Language

Picky at details



Super polite

Rare to find a driver

A Japanese au pair can introduce your family to a new language and culture, offering unique insights into the country's history and customs.

So, let’s dive in and see if Japanese person is the right fit for a potential candidate.

Pros of hiring Japanese Au pair


No doubt the Japanese people set the standards of respect and politeness at a very high level.

Japanese society focuses on peace and harmony

2. Reliable and Responsible

In Japan, punctuality and responsibility are big deals. So, you can trust your au pair to be on time and take care of business like a pro.

3. Cultural Exchange

Having a Japanese au pair means you're in for a cultural adventure! From language to traditions, your household will be buzzing with new experiences and learnings.

It is a great opportunity to learn a global perspective for your family.

4. Language Boost

Want your kids to pick up Japanese? With an au pair from Japan, they'll be chatting away in no time. It's like having a built-in language tutor!

5. Caring and Trustworthy

Japanese culture places a strong emphasis on respect, discipline, and responsibility.

As a result, Japanese au pairs are often known for their reliability, punctuality, and dedication to their duties, making them trustworthy caregivers for children.

Cons of hiring Japanese Au pair

1. Language barrier

While the opportunity to learn Japanese is a significant advantage, the language barrier can also pose challenges, especially initially.

Communication difficulties may arise, leading to misunderstandings or frustration for both the host family and the au pair.

Japanese au pairs may be more confident in their written correspondence than in spoken English.

2. High-context culture

Japanese au pairs, and tend to be softer-spoken and less likely to speak directly or offer to share about themselves.

Non-verbal communication, such as “perceive” and “read between lines” is often used.

3. Cultural Differences in Childcare Practices

While Japanese au pairs may bring valuable insights and skills, there may also be differences in childcare practices and parenting styles that require negotiation and compromise between the au pair and the host family.

4. Many rules and Picky at details

We have so many rules and detailed instructions in Japan. We are told to follow the direction rather than showing initiative since childhood. Also Japanese tend to pursue perfection, so you many need to spend extra time and effort to teach them.

5. Too shy and quiet

Since Japanese has Non-verbal communication, you may find the Japanese au pairs too shy and too quiet.


In conclusion, hiring a Japanese au pair can offer numerous benefits, including cultural exchange, language acquisition, educational enrichment, and a global perspective.

However, it's essential to consider potential challenges such as the language barrier, cultural adjustment, homesickness, and differences in childcare practices.

By addressing these factors proactively and fostering open communication and understanding, families need to be very specific as to what you need help and be patient.

This effort can create a rewarding and enriching experience for both their children and their Japanese au pair.



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